On our way home from school a few weeks ago Ellie was talking about how she would be when she's a grown-up. She used the phrase "When I'm 30 I want to..." and because I'm the type of parent who loves to pry and make my kid contemplate life's biggest questions, I decided to ask her a series of questions about what she wants when she's 30.
Q: Would you like to have kids?
Q: How many kids do you think?
A: Probably two. Not just one. Maybe four.
Q: Do you want to have your own house, or still live with me?
A: I want a big house like Lauren's. It should have lots of layers (stories).
Q: Would you like to live in the city or the country?
A: A place like Golden Valley.
Q: Do you want to be married?
A: *blushes* Yes. I want to be married to a boy and not divorced.
Q: Do you think you want to go somewhere else to work, or stay home with your kids?
A: I think I want to be home with my kids, but sometimes babysit for other kids like Kate's boys (FYI, Kate's boys will be 24).
Q: What do you think you'll enjoy doing in your free time?
A: I will like to cook and garden.
And then the window for tolerating mom's questions closed. Often her thoughts come across much more clearly when I ask questions this way. She has feelings about divorce, being an only child, and mom going to work. She would never say it outright at the risk of hurting my feelings, but at just eight-years-old she has certainly learned first-hand what she doesn't want her life to be.